WHAT YELLING DOES TO ONE'S MIND AND HOW TO PREVENT THE DAMAGE

 

Greetings. Often we get stuck in a rut and we find it difficult to tackle when someone yells at us. It becomes a vicious cycle. Whatever relationship it is, yelling incites a vicious cycle and builds resentment and in turn more yelling at the apparent indifference to repeated shouting at. Let us get to the bottom of the yelling behaviour later. Before that, one has to protect onself from the damage that repeating yelling causes to one's body and mind. 

Yelling as a mode of defence creates a fear and drives the victim into a freeze mode. One stops thinking and feeling as absorbing the hurtful words creates more havoc and the only way to stop this is to stop functioning. FREEZE!! It is painful to exist in that mode often but it is the only way to protect the sanity at times. 

Yelling causes the weaker ones to feel guilty and worthless , thereby losing self- esteem, hopeless and helpless and drives the person into a depressed state. They feel tired more often, experience multiple bodyaches, sleep a lot or little, whatever that can help them express the pain beneath. 

At one point, the person loses any urge to react to yelling and realises the previous pains it has brought on and goes into a mute mode. It wants to forget a lot and in that coure, forgets whatever is even necessary to be remembered. Chronic forgetfulness. 

Yelling creates a distrust towards humanity and relationships in general. Any subtle trigger reminds them of those painful incidents and hence socialisation becomes a painful experience. Better be alone than to be in repetitive pain.

However the yelling is compensated with, in the form of apologies or justifications, the moment remaines encoded in memory and it becomes a habitual pattern of response to any criticism or argument. The individual feels everyone out in the world is set to find faults with him or her and that one is never good enough for anyone. It creates a state of feeling purposeless and emptiness and everyday dawn with a heavy feeling of fuzziness in terms of what one's use is in the real world.

Yelling doesnt send through your point but distances the other from you in ways you cannot imagine. Kind of repetitive microbleeds in the brain. Irreversible and difficult to recover.